wine today, for I leave tomorrow

I went to the 40th birthday party of one of my college buddies this evening.  It makes me wonder... What is appropriate for a 40th birthday?  Mine is not too far away.  I'm tired of birthday themes that even I do not remember... What would be a good birthday theme?  Cy had excellent food, a pool, dancing and interesting people.  I'm not sure I want to follow suit, I just want something that is equally fun.

Tomorrow morning, incredibly early, I leave for China.  *sigh*  Travel again. You can translate this as "She is going to be desperately lonely and bored for the next three weeks.  I should email her."