The past 6 days
Jan. 19th, 2016 10:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
indigo_rose99The past 6 days have been intense. We drove to Albuquerque last Thursday at brother G's request. Today is Tuesday and we are driving home at last. I did laundry in the hotel sink to make our clothes last this long.
There were so many emotional highs and lows... I am just going to help myself remember by trying to write something about them.
* Watching G die was hard.
* E would talk to us while holding G's hand.
* E introduced us to M, one of G's climbing buddies. M was amazing with G, talking to him and helping E give him painkillers. Her medical and process knowledge was invaluable.She knew what to do with the opiates - both administering them to him and disposal after he died. M was one of the major highlights of this trip.
* I'm not sure how Er appeared in the picture. A friend of a friend, he said. But it was clear Er was a major player in clearing G's house for the hospital bed.
* In the top drawer of G's tiny bedside table was a huge clamp and a jewelry hammer. E blushed and looked confused when I showed them to her and T. I have to admit that teasing her about them was fun.
* The great mystery was G's safes. He told me the combination to one, and we all thought E had the combination to the other. We were So Wrong. I first tried my documented combination on Friday. Didn't work. We puzzled through G's password notebooks, intentionally designed to be confusing on Saturday. Sunday we tried every number we could find and managed to get into the gun safe (right numbers, wrong directions). It was late Monday night before we found the small safe manual and lucked onto the right key.
* And let me say a few words about G's keys. We collected a small shoebox FULL of unlabeled keys that go to nothing we can find. E said she noticed G had the key to her Chinese apartment from 5 years ago! Why so many keys?!?
* I'm convinced Er was trying to take care of us. He invited us over Sat night for BBQ and Cards Against Humanity. My favorite part of the evening was when he showed us his tights. Unicorn-rainbow-robot dinasaur tights. Yes, really. I wish I had taken a picture, but thought it would be blocked on LJ.
* Er stepped on a nail while helping us load the family furniture. Went all the way through his shoe. Not since the Mike Rowe Dirty Jobs snake counting episode have I seen someone so diplomatically in pain.
* Every one assumes that a death in the family is hard. I managed to scrape my hand on rusty metal Sunday, with subsequent trip to get a tetanus shot. Monday I was stepping out of the Uhaul when something popped in my back. Walking is painful, sitting cross-legged more so. I knew it world be painful, but didn't realize it would be so literal in the pain.
* E and I held a quiet wake to talk about G Sunday. It was really nice to meet all of the people who donated vacation time, helped clean his house and yard, brought food, did necessary house maintenence and so much more. G had a lot more friends and better support system than I ever thought.
There were so many emotional highs and lows... I am just going to help myself remember by trying to write something about them.
* Watching G die was hard.
* E would talk to us while holding G's hand.
* E introduced us to M, one of G's climbing buddies. M was amazing with G, talking to him and helping E give him painkillers. Her medical and process knowledge was invaluable.She knew what to do with the opiates - both administering them to him and disposal after he died. M was one of the major highlights of this trip.
* I'm not sure how Er appeared in the picture. A friend of a friend, he said. But it was clear Er was a major player in clearing G's house for the hospital bed.
* In the top drawer of G's tiny bedside table was a huge clamp and a jewelry hammer. E blushed and looked confused when I showed them to her and T. I have to admit that teasing her about them was fun.
* The great mystery was G's safes. He told me the combination to one, and we all thought E had the combination to the other. We were So Wrong. I first tried my documented combination on Friday. Didn't work. We puzzled through G's password notebooks, intentionally designed to be confusing on Saturday. Sunday we tried every number we could find and managed to get into the gun safe (right numbers, wrong directions). It was late Monday night before we found the small safe manual and lucked onto the right key.
* And let me say a few words about G's keys. We collected a small shoebox FULL of unlabeled keys that go to nothing we can find. E said she noticed G had the key to her Chinese apartment from 5 years ago! Why so many keys?!?
* I'm convinced Er was trying to take care of us. He invited us over Sat night for BBQ and Cards Against Humanity. My favorite part of the evening was when he showed us his tights. Unicorn-rainbow-robot dinasaur tights. Yes, really. I wish I had taken a picture, but thought it would be blocked on LJ.
* Er stepped on a nail while helping us load the family furniture. Went all the way through his shoe. Not since the Mike Rowe Dirty Jobs snake counting episode have I seen someone so diplomatically in pain.
* Every one assumes that a death in the family is hard. I managed to scrape my hand on rusty metal Sunday, with subsequent trip to get a tetanus shot. Monday I was stepping out of the Uhaul when something popped in my back. Walking is painful, sitting cross-legged more so. I knew it world be painful, but didn't realize it would be so literal in the pain.
* E and I held a quiet wake to talk about G Sunday. It was really nice to meet all of the people who donated vacation time, helped clean his house and yard, brought food, did necessary house maintenence and so much more. G had a lot more friends and better support system than I ever thought.
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Date: 2016-01-21 02:18 am (UTC)A scrape AND a back injury? Yikes! Hope you're feeling better soon!