Beaten, not stirred
Feb. 6th, 2010 08:52 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
indigo_rose99When my husband leaves the house to go to work or fun, I see him off with the assurance, "Now, if you are not having fun, just come right back home!" Friday morning, he responded as he left for work, "Then can I just stay here?"
Friday evening after leaving for gaming (which usually takes many hours), he returned in about 30 minutes and said, "I wasn't having fun. So I came back." He sounded like he had a brewing cold. So, I put him (well, us) to bed early.
And this morning when I got up at 7:50am to go to the gym, I left him (hopefully) asleep. When I returned from the gym, I could hear him showering. I decided to brighten his day, and took the dozen limp roses in the kitchen and made a rose petal path from the bedroom to my location (unromantically, in the kitchen washing dishes). *smile* He was delighted. It was certainly a bright moment in my day.
I showered (from the gym, potty mind!) and had an AMAZING chat with![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
steelgoh (THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!) on what to ask in-home hospice providers, and then we set off. One large BBQ stop later, we headed to his folks' place. We dropped off the BBQ for weekend food for them, picked up Dad and started in on the two tours of the living facilities. The first was an independent living facility, and the second an assisted living facility. There is a serious price difference and an AMAZING difference in what standard events are offered. Happily, my job is to document, not to make summary decisions.
It is interesting, though. One place had 3 meals a day, but no Activities Director or schedule of monthly events, and undependable-sounding transportation. The other was a bit more expensive, a single included meal every other day, but had a nice gym, a printed transportation availability schedule, and many interesting sounding events each week. Both places assured us that planning ahead with the person (Dad) is so important. Dad can get his mind prepared for the change, even if it has to happen really suddenly. Dad told me he did appreciate the time to ponder which tools to bring. *laugh* Engineers.
But by the end, we were totally wiped. Dad still looked pretty good, but T and I were falling asleep in our chairs and wishing desperately to escape.
So, now I am at last at home, starting the documentation process for what we learned today. Ugh.
Friday evening after leaving for gaming (which usually takes many hours), he returned in about 30 minutes and said, "I wasn't having fun. So I came back." He sounded like he had a brewing cold. So, I put him (well, us) to bed early.
And this morning when I got up at 7:50am to go to the gym, I left him (hopefully) asleep. When I returned from the gym, I could hear him showering. I decided to brighten his day, and took the dozen limp roses in the kitchen and made a rose petal path from the bedroom to my location (unromantically, in the kitchen washing dishes). *smile* He was delighted. It was certainly a bright moment in my day.
I showered (from the gym, potty mind!) and had an AMAZING chat with
steelgoh (THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU!) on what to ask in-home hospice providers, and then we set off. One large BBQ stop later, we headed to his folks' place. We dropped off the BBQ for weekend food for them, picked up Dad and started in on the two tours of the living facilities. The first was an independent living facility, and the second an assisted living facility. There is a serious price difference and an AMAZING difference in what standard events are offered. Happily, my job is to document, not to make summary decisions. It is interesting, though. One place had 3 meals a day, but no Activities Director or schedule of monthly events, and undependable-sounding transportation. The other was a bit more expensive, a single included meal every other day, but had a nice gym, a printed transportation availability schedule, and many interesting sounding events each week. Both places assured us that planning ahead with the person (Dad) is so important. Dad can get his mind prepared for the change, even if it has to happen really suddenly. Dad told me he did appreciate the time to ponder which tools to bring. *laugh* Engineers.
But by the end, we were totally wiped. Dad still looked pretty good, but T and I were falling asleep in our chairs and wishing desperately to escape.
So, now I am at last at home, starting the documentation process for what we learned today. Ugh.
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Date: 2010-02-07 05:08 pm (UTC)Oh, that's so nice to hear/read. I'm glad your Dad is being good and cheerful about this with you.
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Date: 2010-02-08 01:47 pm (UTC)She's a go-getter, though, and has organized a lot of activities herself! The facility is Catholic but has large Jewish population, and she has started up a Jewish study group, as well as organizing and directing their Purim play.
For point of comparison, this is where she is:
http://www.holyredeemer.com/Main/Public/TheLafayetteRedeemer.aspx